Talk about outside your comfort zone…
Fast forward now six and a half years. My daughter wanted to attend an event at our church, and we really wanted her to be a part of it, but she was at her dad’s for the weekend. You have to know the whole story to understand just how difficult this was, but I sent an email to her dad and stepmom asking if they did not have plans already if she would be permitted to join us. I offered to pick her up and drop her back off. At the end of the email, I included an invitation for them all to join us. This gesture was way, way out of my comfort zone, but seemed like the right thing to do.
As expected, I received no response . However, on Saturday night (the event being on Sunday afternoon,) I received a text from my daughter saying she could go. When I inquired as to whether I needed to pick her up or not, she shocked me by texting that she thought they were all going! Wow, is about all I could say.
To give just a little insight ,my ex, her father, hasn’t been to church in well over 7 years as he stopped going before he left our marriage. He has not kept in contact with anyone connected to our church, or any other church for that matter. In fact, he sent a nasty email to our Pastor several years ago, but that’s another story for another post.
But they did show up with our daughter.
Yes, it was uncomfortable, but I surely didn’t want him to have the satisfaction of knowing that. I greeted them all, helped them sign in and get details on the event. He never spoke, but his wife did. At least she can answer questions!
The important thing was, I stepped outside my comfort zone for the benefit of my daughter and that is how it should be. Our children should never lack or do without or not do, because of adult issues.
D11 Originally published 5-2014