You never know who is suffering

Tragic news this week with the passing of Robin Williams. I still cannot wrap my mind around it. He was so extremely talented, was able to put a smile on everyone’s face and a laugh in our hearts. He will be missed by so many for years to come, and for those who will never READ MORE

If I had a nickel……

We know how divorce affects us as the person going through the ugly nasty hell.  We even know some of how it affects our minor children now dealing with two households and two families. But we tend to forget that it still affects our grown children.  I think we have a false belief that because READ MORE

Sticking to a Schedule

When going through a divorce, it is hard to even fathom sharing your children with anyone, even their other parent. Even if the other parent is a great, attentive parent, it does not make giving up time with your child or children any less painful. We do not go into parenting with a thought process READ MORE

Death or Divorce?

I have suffered both: the deaths of both parents, and a very painful divorce. Which is worse?     Although I miss my parents every minute of every day, I believe my divorce was and is much worse.     My dad died suddenly. We had known he was sick, and even suspected the dreaded READ MORE

Secrets are Never good

Secrets in a marriage are never good. No matter how innocent you think they are, your spouse does not feel the same.   I remember while going through my divorce, I was dragged out to dinner with my sister and her husband (at this point I pretty much wanted to crawl in a hole and READ MORE

Karen’s Ah-Ha Moment

Sometimes it takes a lifetime to learn a lesson, other times it is instant.  But when we experience a truly “AH HA” moment, wow, what a feeling!   Here is a little story about a woman who one day found herself at 45 years old trying to figure out what her life was all about. READ MORE

Now it was my time to move on

Moving on. What does that mean? Well, in his case it meant me packing his clothes up and leaving them in the garage for him to pick up. He decided he didn’t want to be married, so he didn’t need to be coming and going in my daily world. So it was my turn. Now READ MORE

He Moved On

Looking back, I would have to say my ex moved on before he was my ex. That statement is twofold. I believe that to end our marriage, to walk out on our family, he would have moved on prior to leaving. And he definitely moved on prior to our divorce being final. There were extracurricular READ MORE