I was told, and even heard in sermons, that we should pray for our enemies. There is even a song about it: “Pray for You” by Jaron and the Long Road to Love. Need a laugh, be sure and listen to the song! And I will admit some of those lyrics are definitely thoughts that have crossed my mind a time or two.

How can we bring ourselves to pray for someone who has hurt us so deeply? Does that person really deserve our prayers?

If you have been through a divorce or are going through one now, you have had to or will have to do some sort of division of assets. This is one of the hardest things I encountered (up to that point, anyway.Sharing my children is way harder).

Deciding who gets what, houses, cars, dishes, pictures, decor, furniture, tools, everything we had accumulated in 24 years now had to be divided. He did not play nice, either. Anything he thought I wanted, he wanted, all the way down to my jewelry and some things I inherited when my parents passed away. It was ugly.

We lose a lot when divorce happens. We lose our family as we knew it; we lose things; we lose life as we thought it would be. So many things are different than they were, and than we thought they would be. One of the biggest things people tend not to think about is we lose our friend, many times our best friend.

I got married at the ripe old age of 19. I was still a kid, and so was he, just one and half years older than I. We did a lot of growing up as we built our marriage. We learned how to be adults, spouses, and parents together.  Being so young and moving away from family and all that we knew to be home made us closer because we had to rely on each other.

Just another date on a calendar? After a divorce, what do you do with the date of what was?  I had a very hard time with this at first. I have kind of forgotten about it now (I said kind of!)  I read another blogger’s blog on the subject, which of course brought the thoughts back to me and my situation.  

I was married for 24 years, so the date meant something for 24 years. It is the date we were married, we pledged our love, we made promises to each other and our families. Now what?