Read something light
Read something besides self help, already! This was something my counselor said to me about 2 months into my counseling with her, and 3 months after my husband left. In that short time span, I had probably read 15 or more of what I called self help books: books about divorce, single parenting, being single again, depression, surviving. You name, it I was reading it. As I mentioned in earlier posts, I was searching for my answer. I was trying to find MY story written by someone else so I would know how to get through it all and how I was going to turn out.Write comment (0 Comments)
Lost: my willpower
In my former life, I was required to go to the gym, to run, to walk, to work out everyday, to starve, to have surgery… just to try to make him happy and stay in our family.
You guessed it: none of that worked. Yes, I did it all and it still didn’t work. Now, years later, I know that nothing I did or could ever do would make him happy.Write comment (2 Comments)
Praying for my ex
I was told, and even heard in sermons, that we should pray for our enemies. There is even a song about it: “Pray for You” by Jaron and the Long Road to Love. Need a laugh, be sure and listen to the song! And I will admit some of those lyrics are definitely thoughts that have crossed my mind a time or two.
How can we bring ourselves to pray for someone who has hurt us so deeply? Does that person really deserve our prayers?Write comment (0 Comments)
If you have been through a divorce or are going through one now, you have had to or will have to do some sort of division of assets. This is one of the hardest things I encountered (up to that point, anyway.Sharing my children is way harder).
Deciding who gets what, houses, cars, dishes, pictures, decor, furniture, tools, everything we had accumulated in 24 years now had to be divided. He did not play nice, either. Anything he thought I wanted, he wanted, all the way down to my jewelry and some things I inherited when my parents passed away. It was ugly.Write comment (1 Comment)