Pop open the can, be sure you are ready!
I was totally thrown for a loop this week. Something I did not expect at all. However, I must admit, I opened the can of worms, then was shocked by the worms! I will attempt to condense the story as to not totally bore you all.
In my previous life the former “we” were friends with a certain family. Very close friends; we vacationed together, we helped them buy their house, they were named guardians of our children in our wills. So you get an idea of how close we were.
Just two short days after my husband left, the man of this family we were close to came to visit me. He was comforting, and supportive. He claimed to be just as shocked as I was by the actions of my estranged husband. This family had moved away and he was just in town on business so it was a brief visit. He talked about what went wrong, like I knew (uh, hello, I was just left!) He worried about his own marriage. Gee thanks, I thought this was about me, I thought, as I sat crying on the sofa next to him.Write comment (0 Comments)
Let go of these 20 things to be happy
In today's world we see all kinds of lists and things to do. To lose belly fat, don't eat these things. To find your soul mate, join an online dating site. 20 signs you grew up country. 10 ways to keep your man happy. 11 things only a girl with short hair understands. 10 best art galleries. 22 super easy hair hacks that will get you out the door faster.
Sometimes we wish there was a solution list for whatever it is we are going through, but that is not how life works. Most of the time we actually already know what we need to do or not do to accomplish our desired results.
However some lists are fun to read and some are even helpful, reminding us of what we already knew. So when I saw this list published on my cousin's Facebook page I knew I wanted to share it.
IF you haven't learned by now that in order to be happy, you must first be happy with yourself then you will find this list even more helpful. It was a nice reminder in some areas, a kick in the pants in others. Enjoy.
The 20 Things You Need To Let Go To Be Happy------- Unknown author
1. The Approval Of Others - Who gives a dang what other people think? If you are happy with the decisions you have made, then whose business is that but your own? Think of how much you could achieve if you stopped letting other people’s opinions dictate the way you live your life. Do you, and engage in whatever actions you think might better your life.Write comment (0 Comments)
Stress and Worry, Stress vs Worry
Stress. Worry. I am extremely good at both. Have I always been that way? I guess that answer depends on who you ask. I do know that I stress and worry way more now than ever before. But I do less worrying and stressing now than I did during the divorce proceedings.
“Stress is an external force on us and worry is created inside of us. We can learn to cope with stress although we might not eliminate it. We can learn to eliminate worry.”
Dr Leslie Willingham
“Stress can be caused by many things. Worry is stress.”
I totally stressed and worried over the possibility of losing my kids. I stressed about having a nice place to live, a job, being able to pay my bills, about surviving on my own, and on and on. Why would I lose my kids? Why would I not have a nice place to live? Why would I not be able to pay my bills? Why? Because my ex made threats? Really, who gave him the gavel?Write comment (0 Comments)
Does Feeling Under-Appreciated Lead to Selfishness?
I find myself feeling hurt and unappreciated today. Although this time it is adults in my life and not my children. As parents, we become accustomed or used to feeling unappreciated or under-appreciated by our children. As adults, we feel we have grown past that stage.
I am a generous giver by nature. I would give you the shirt off my back even if I had no other, if I felt you truly needed it. My heart is tender and loving. I naturally want all to be happy and feel I should take care of all. All people, all things, all situations, just ALL.
I find myself in my desire for everyone to be happy trying to make everyone that way. I try to make the plans incorporate everyone’s wishes and desires. I try not to upset anyone. I do for others to the detriment of myself and sometimes my family.
I try so hard to please everyone that it is easy for me to get my feelings hurt. I have learned to deal with that part. But today I am very much struggling with feeling like I do so much and not only is it not appreciated, but if one little thing isn't perfect, then I am treated like I did it on purpose. That I planned it to be wrong, or not pleasing to all involved.Write comment (1 Comment)