Not seeing eye to eye
Not seeing eye to eye.
It happens all the time, in all relationships. We need to learn to listen. Not simply hearing, but really listening to what the other person is trying to say. We all have the fault of hearing what we want to hear, or what we think that person is saying. We think we know how the other person feels. We imagine the conversation before it even takes place. We have preconceived notions as to how it will go and what will be said. When we do this, we don’t allow ourselves to hear what the other person is truly saying. Try not speaking, not arguing but really listening while the other person speaks. Sometimes we can be surprised by receiving not what we thought we would, but what we really wanted all along.Write comment (0 Comments)
Fake it until you feel it
Fake It Until You Feel It
Sound easy? Sound, well, fake? Sound like good or bad advice? I sought out a counselor within the first month. When I couldn’t control my emotions at all, when I could not stop the tears, I knew I needed help. I don’t remember now which “friend” referred me to the counselor I chose. I say” friend” because if it is who I think it was, that person is no longer a friend and has, as I like to say, gone to the other side. Regardless, I am grateful for the referral, as I benefited very much from the counselor. I saw her once a week for 3 years. I tried at one point to go every other week, and that was too long to wait. It was not cheap, but good things hardly ever are. I sometimes paid her to watch and listen to me cry, especially in the beginning. I couldn’t even speak; I just cried. Her warm and loving disposition did my heart good.Write comment (1 Comment)
Why do we find ourselves dependent, gullible, and with so little self-esteem? My heart breaks as I sit and listen to a friend tell me through her tears of her difficulties with her soon-to-be ex. As I listen to her share her experience and her emotions and her fears, I am all too familiar.
This was me 7 years ago. Her words are echoes of my own. Funny how right my counselor was when she told me in 5 years I would see things totally differently. But I am not so far removed that I cannot remember that pain, those desperate feelings, that agony of defeat. As I long for my friend to be far beyond where she stands today, I pray God’s peace and comfort for her during this trial.Write comment (1 Comment)
Seclusion. Retreat. Hide
Seclusion. Retreat. Hide.
These are all words I know too well. As I sit here wondering about a new friend of mine and how she is doing, I am reminded that I need to work harder to be a better friend to her. You see, she is going through a journey much like my own so I know, I mean know, how she is feeling and what she is doing by not answering my texts or emails or Facebook messages. I already know she won’t take my call. How do I know? Because not so long ago, I was her.
When we are in the pit of despair, when we are holding our pity parties, when we are depressed beyond all explanation, the last thing we want is to admit it to someone else, to let anyone see us like this, to ask for help.Write comment (0 Comments)